You matter and here's why

The relationship we have with ourselves.

It’s funny how much time we can spend worrying about our relationships with others. Whether it be our relationship with a spouse, a partner, a friend or a family member. We analyse what we enjoy and dislike about them or worry about what others might think of us.

Gradually we then start to forget about one of the, if not THE most important person in our lives, and that is, ourselves. I remember years ago, someone telling me, “you are the person who will always be there with you, no matter where you go and what you do, you are the one constant in your life.”

With this in mind, I have noticed that it is often easy for people who do not have the best relationship with themselves, to quickly identify the things they would like to either improve about themselves or change altogether.

However, what if in order to improve the relationship you have with yourself, you challenge yourself and take a moment to answer these questions:

What can you accept about yourself that would improve this relationship?

What are the things you would have to forgive yourself for?

How would you go about building and strengthening the trust you have with yourself?

What is needed for you to believe you are worth the effort?

Some people take appropriate time for themselves and do not question if they deserve it. They have identified their needs and work towards making sure those needs are being met without sacrificing the needs of others.

As adults, I believe it is important we do what we can to ensure our own needs are met without depending on others to meet those needs for us. I’m not saying we don’t need anyone else in our lives. Relationships and connections are extremely important.

But, what if we build our relationships on top of the love and value we hold for ourselves rather than relying on how others are treating us to determine how we should feel about ourselves?

Why not take this moment to remind yourself why you are important and why you matter? Because the reality is, you absolutely do.

Written by Marie-Josée Marchica